Comments on: The easiest way to change your life

By: Charlie

Charlie — Wed, 16 May 2012 18:51:18 +0000

You don’t necessarily have to move away from certain social circles; you can always keep people in your life. It’s just important to continue seeking out those who will push you in the directions you want to go. There shouldn’t be a resistance to that, because you’re only adding to your world — you’re not taking anything away from it.

By: andy drish

andy drish — Wed, 16 May 2012 04:33:18 +0000

hey charlie – found your site from a ramit interview. great stuff.

i read somewhere that great leaders must change their social circle every four to seven years because they’re constantly out growing the people around them.

sometimes i find myself resisting the pain of breaking away from specific groups (i’m kind of going through this now.) and i constantly must remind myself is a sign of positive growth.

any tips on embracing the resistance that comes from moving on to new social circles?

By: Warren

Warren — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 21:21:44 +0000

Agree completely. Never associate with people who make your stomach churn.

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By: Angel

Angel — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 16:52:49 +0000

Most people will never be aware of the dramatically seriousness of the sentence by Jim Rohn (“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”).

Personally, I never started to grow as a lawyer until I realized about that. Now, I spread the word of the important and direct relationship between your most frequented group and your own personal development level.

Excellent post. Thanks.

By: John

John — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 04:11:15 +0000

As a business owner joining Entrepreneur’s Organization (Membership criteria of $1M+ annual revenue + controlling partner + < 50 years old) has proven to be an invaluable ticket to associate with a fairly exclusive group of terrific high fliers. My business is around $3M so there are plenty of members with bigger businesses to help stretch me but, just as rewarding, I have a chance to help raise level of attainment of others as well.

By: lurker

lurker — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 13:13:47 +0000

I feel you need to use a word that is different from “friend” as loyalty is a quality of friendship lacking here. FWIW and IMHO, of course.
Seek out “mentors” perhaps? Seems very shallow to dump people for “better” folks who can help your career and call everyone a “friend” but maybe that is just me…